Monday, 30 September 2013

Blue Boys

4 years old Koko Richie and 2 weeks old Tromson

Sunset Outing at Garden By the Bay (29 Sep 2013)

As usual, we had family outing on weekend, this time we chose sunset after attending mass on Sunday





Achievement at 8 weeks - Roll over

Surprisingly, Tromson can do  roll ever from tummy position in the witness of daddy, mommy and koko Richie for the first time
Well done !



Wednesday, 25 September 2013

Full breastfeed (7 weeks)

Blessing in disguise, I would say
Because mommy's breastpump is spoilt, mommy has no choice besides hand express
And the wonder of hand express is it's stimulating more milk then using electric breast pump
Yes, it takes a lot of efforts and time but somehow it produces more milk
Well I guess it's skin to skin effect

And because mommy's breast feel full eventhough not until engorged, mommy just want to empty the breast by direct lactating so no formula milk yet for this few days.

Yesterday, mommy was busy so mommy asked daddy to feed Tromson with formula bottlefed.
He had nipple confusion and only half bottle, he vomited...Oh sigh...

So mommy had no choice to breastfeed him and managed to put him to sleep for 3 hours yeayy...

Start to roll over (7 weeks plus)

Tromson made another surprise yesterday, when mommy did tummy time, he started to roll over even though it's not complete yet, but he has shown the sign of another milestone soon will be achieved
Good job son !

Tuesday, 24 September 2013

Day 1 : become super mom

There's a quote that mommy's jobscopes are
chef, teacher, maid, plumber, nanny, driver, nurse etc and it's true
Yesterday mommy was alone for the first time during the day without any helps to take care Tromson and koko Richie
Mommy woke up at 7am and prepared koko Richie to go to school. After koko has gone, mommy took care of Tromson while doing that, mommy also cooked, made juice, cleaned the house, mop the floor, cleaned the toilet, ironed the laundry
Mommy liked robot, every minutes are precious especially when Tromson was asleep
But in the end mommy was satisfied with all the achievements until koko Richie came back from school, had lunch with koko and finally put Tromson and koko to sleep

And mommy had 45 minutes rest and had tea break
It's tough and tiring but that's the magic of mother. We could do multitasking and finished everything in a day and we could survive with 5 hours sleep or perhaps less than that every day

Lift up head during tummy time at 7 weeks

Tromson's motoric skill develop quite fast, he could lift up his head less than 1 month when we burp him but he's lazy during tummy time.
So today, mommy managed to let him do tummy time before taking shower
Not bad, he could do tummy time for 2 minutes

 
 
 

Monday, 23 September 2013

Celebrating Koko Richie's 4th Birthday (23 Sep 2013)

We celebrated koko Richie's Birthday at koko's school and Tromson has been very good. He slept all the way till we finished celebrating koko Richie's Birthday



Celebrating Opa's 60th Birthday (22 September 2013)

Tromson was 7 weeks old when we brought him to celebrate Opa's 60th Birthday at Holiday Inn Atrium





Monday, 16 September 2013

What a Wonderful Day @Bukit Batok Nature Park (14 Sep 2013)

As usual, we explore new park which is Bukit Batok Nature Park.
The weather is nice and we are relaxing our mind, eyes and life from hectic days





6 Weeks 6 kg and counting...

Tromson is getting chubbier each day, he drinks every 1 - 2 hour.
We measured his weight using our own scale and it's around 6 kg, we bet that his weight will reach 7 kg on week 8 hehe...
Here's some pictures of him


Friday, 13 September 2013

Breathe in Breathe Out (Article)

I am in a season of my life right now where I feel bone-tired almost all of the time. Ragged, how-am-I-going-to-make-it-to-the-end-of-the-day, eyes burning exhausted.

I have three boys ages 5 and under. I'm not complaining about that. Well, maybe I am a little bit. But I know that there are people who would give anything for a house full of laughter and chaos. I was that person for years and years; the pain of infertility is stabbing and throbbing and constant. I remember allowing hope to rise and then seeing it crash all around me, month after month, for seven years. I am working on another post about infertility that will come at a later date.

But right now, in my actual life, I have three boys ages 5 and under. There are many moments where they are utterly delightful, like last week, when Isaac told my sister-in-law that, "My daddy has hair all over." Or when Elijah put a green washcloth over his chin and cheeks, and proudly declared, "Daddy! I have a beard just like you!" Or when Ben sneaks downstairs in the morning before the other boys do, smiles at me, and says, "Daddy and Ben time."

But there are also many moments when I have no idea how I'm going to make it until their bedtime. The constant demands, the needs and the fighting are fingernails across the chalkboard every single day.

One of my children is for sure going to be the next Steve Jobs. I now have immense empathy for his parents. He has a precise vision of what he wants -- exactly that way and no other way. Sometimes, it's the way his plate needs to be centered exactly to his chair, or how his socks go on, or exactly how the picture of the pink dolphin needs to look -- with brave eyes, not sad eyes, daddy! He is a laser beam, and he is not satisfied until it's exactly right.

I have to confess that sometimes, the sound of his screaming drives me to hide in the pantry. And I will neither confirm nor deny that while in there, I compulsively eat chips and/or dark chocolate.

There are people who say this to me:

"You should enjoy every moment now! They grow up so fast!"

I usually smile and give some sort of guffaw, but inside, I secretly want to hold the people that make these kind of statements under water. Just for a minute or so. Just until they panic a little.

If you have friends with small children -- especially if your children are now teenagers or if they're grown -- please vow to me right now that you will never say this to them. Not because it's not true, but because it really, really doesn't help.

We know it's true that they grow up too fast. But feeling like I have to enjoy every moment doesn't feel like a gift, it feels like one more thing that is impossible to do, and right now, that list is way too long. Not every moment is enjoyable as a parent; it wasn't for you, and it isn't for me. You just have obviously forgotten. I can forgive you for that. But if you tell me to enjoy every moment one more time, I will need to break up with you.

If you are a parent of small children, you know that there are moments of spectacular delight, and you can't believe you get to be around these little people. But let me be the one who says the following things out loud:

You are not a terrible parent if you can't figure out a way for your children to eat as healthy as your friend's children do. She's obviously using a bizarre and probably illegal form of hypnotism.

You are not a terrible parent if you yell at your kids sometimes. You have little dictators living in your house. If someone else talked to you like that, they'd be put in prison.

You are not a terrible parent if you can't figure out how to calmly give them appropriate consequences in real time for every single act of terrorism that they so creatively devise.

You are not a terrible parent if you'd rather be at work.

You are not a terrible parent if you just can't wait for them to go to bed.

You are not a terrible parent if the sound of their voices sometimes makes you want to drink and never stop.

You're not a terrible parent.

You're an actual parent with limits. You cannot do it all. We all need to admit that one of the casualties specific to our information saturated culture is that we have sky-scraper standards for parenting, where we feel like we're failing horribly if we feed our children chicken nuggets and we let them watch TV in the morning.

One of the reasons we are so exhausted is that we are oversaturated with information about the kind of parents we should be.

So, maybe it's time to stop reading the blogs that tell you how to raise the next president who knows how to read when she's 3 and who cooks, not only eats, her vegetables. Maybe it's time to embrace being the kind of parent who says sorry when you yell. Who models what it's like to take time for yourself. Who asks God to help you to be a better version of the person that you actually are, not for more strength to be an ideal parent.

So, the next time you see your friends with small children with that foggy and desperate look in their eyes, order them a pizza and send it to their house that night. Volunteer to take their kids for a few hours so they can be alone in their own house and have sex when they're not so tired, for heaven's sake. Put your hand on their shoulder, look them in the eyes, and tell them that they're doing a good job. Just don't freak out if they start weeping uncontrollably. Most of the time, we feel like we're botching the whole deal and our kids will turn into horrible criminals who hate us and will never want to be around us when they're older.

You're bone-tired. I'm not sure when it's going to get better. Today might be a good day or it might be the day that you lost it in a way that surprised even yourself.

Breathe in. Breathe out.

You're not alone.

Source : http://www.huffingtonpost.com/blackberry/p.html?id=3209305

Raising Godly Children : Six gifts Your Kids need from You (Article)

Dads, there are some things only you can give your kids. And I’m not talking about basketball shoes or cell phones or bigger allowances or expensive vacations. These are gifts much more important than that—and much more valuable. Give your children these gifts, and you will reap the benefits for years to come. Withhold them, and you take the chance of watching helplessly as they head down the wrong road.

Gift #1—Love Their Mom

Communicate regularly and lovingly with your wife — especially in front of the children. Take an interest in her interests, do unexpected things for her, treat her the way you did when you were pursuing her. You may think that romancing your wife has little to do with fatherhood, but it is key to helping your children feel safe and loved.
Block out a night once or twice a month for a date night with your wife — just the two of you. I know, I know. You think you’re too busy or it’s too expensive. But it’s an investment you can’t afford not to make. Love your wife and show it. The best way to be a good father is to be a good husband.

Gift #2—Teach Your Kids Respect

Part of the growing-up process is to test boundaries: to see how much you can get away with; to see where the lines are drawn. Your children will push back. You need to be clear about what’s expected of them. Teaching them respect begins in the early years, and it must be reinforced by both parents.
Teach them simple lessons to understand the importance of respect:


  • Look people in the eyes when you speak to them
  • The universe doesn’t revolve around you
  • Express thanks with a grateful heart
  • Dive in and serve
  • Respond with obedience the first time you’re asked
  • Treat your mother with respect and honor

Gift #3—Make Some Memories with Your Kids

Get in the picture. Create traditions together as a family. Don’t allow time or money to become an excuse. Let’s be honest, you will spend the money on something, so why not invest in activities that will deepen your family bond? Your effort to create memories will make a lasting impression.
But you don’t have to go into debt to make memories. Maybe you can start a tradition, an annual activity around a holiday. It might be a spur-of-the-moment surprise, game night or movie night, a trip to see the Christmas lights, tubing on the river, or a Memorial Day cookout. Making memories doesn’t have to cost a lot. It just has to be a priority.
Make memories with each of your children. In years to come, they won’t remember what you spent. They’ll remember what you did.

Gift #4—Give Spiritual Direction to Your Family

A father is without question the single most significant influence on the spiritual life of his children. The statistical data from three major studies in recent years is overwhelming. If the father is involved in a church and is growing spiritually, the likelihood of the child doing the same skyrockets. If Mom goes to church alone with the kids, the chances plummet.
Numbers don’t lie:
If a child is the first person in a household to become a Christian, there is a 3.5 percent probability everyone else in the household will follow.
If the mother is the first to become a Christian, there is a 17 percent probability everyone else in the household will follow.
But if the father is first, there is a 93 percent probability everyone else in the household will follow.
Little eyes are watching. Little ears are listening. As Albert Schweitzer said, “Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.” If you want to produce the real thing, you must be the real thing.

Gift # 5—Encourage Your Kids

Your children need to know that you are in their corner. We are all busy and pulled a lot of directions, but when your son or daughter takes the stage, the court, or the field, that glance into the crowd is a subtle search for significance. Your absence deflates them. Your presence shouts that they have value. They can pick your voice out of a crowd with the precision of a piano tuner.
Dads play a key role in determining whether children venture outside their comfort zone or fearfully settle for a status quo existence. Your genuine affirmation provides a safety net for taking risks and stretching their confidence.

Gift #6—Invest Quality Time

At one time in my life, I was enjoying the climb rather than focusing my attention and priorities on my wife and small children. The ministry, like any other profession, can eat you alive if you let it. I gave at the office — sixty-hour weeks like an obsessed and driven workaholic.
All that changed one Father’s Day. Before my sermon a soloist sang a song with this refrain:
Slow down, Daddy, don’t work so hard.
We’re proud of our house, we’ve got a big enough yard.
Slow down, Daddy — we want you around —
Daddy, please slow down.
When she finished singing, I went to the pulpit to preach. I opened my mouth, but no words came out. The emotion and guilt left me speechless.
The congregation had to sing a chorus so that I could regain my composure.
God used the words of that song as a wake-up call. With the Lord’s help, I changed. I put my family back on the priority list. Ever since then, I’ve been in the picture. Sometimes a little fuzzy and out of focus, but there. And I plan to stay there. Forever.

SUMMARY

Dads, be encouraged. You can do this. You really can . . . just not on your own. Invite the Lord and your wife into the equation. From this point forward, things can be different.
  • Things can be better.
  • Check your priorities. Be intentional.
  • Slow down. Step up.
  • Get in the picture.

When you look back years from now, both you and your family will be glad you did.


Source : http://www.raisinggodlychildren.org/2013/07/six-gifts-your-kids-need-from-you.html

6 weeks - breastfeeding progress

So far mommy has made great progress for breastmilk production. Mommy can now fully breastfeeding Tromson but still hasn't been able to get the excess yet for future storing.
Mommy still gave Tromson 1 formula feed a day around 135cc so he used to other taste beside breastmilk.
Lesson learnt from Richie where he's fully breastfed and problem comes after weaning that he rejected all milk

So far, Tromson still accepts bottlefed, hopefully he will not reject bottlefed too.

For the first time...enjoying bouncer...(13 September 2013)

I guess 13 is not always unlucky number.
Today remarks Tromson is able to enjoy bouncer. He could sleep there for around 45 minutes to almost 2 hour from morning till this evening.
Hopefully it's not only today he behaves well.
Here's the photo that mommy took when he sleeps soundly


Thursday, 12 September 2013

Thank you card for Dr Wong

Mommy created this thank you card for Dr Wong, the one who helped delivering Tromson safely to this world, mommy hope Dr Wong liked it


Tuesday, 10 September 2013

Second Visit to Botanic Gardens (7 September 2013)

After checking up, we went to Botanic Gardens 'cos the weather was so nice on that day
And here's some pictures we took





5 Weeks old (Regular Check Up)

Last Saturday, we had regular check up to see the growth of Tromson, he's 5 weeks old
Surprisingly, his weight, length and head circumstances are way above average which is 97 percentile
His size is like 2.5 months old baby hehe...

The weight : 5.35 kg
Length : 57cm
Head Circumstances : 39cm

We took picture with his PD too, Dr Ratna





Thursday, 5 September 2013

5 Weeks breastfeeding Progress

Coming to 5 weeks, breastfeeding has reached to 90%, mommy still needs to top up formula 1 - 2x a day which is 120cc per feed.
I guess it has been great improvement that mommy's breastmilk starts building up and hopefully 2 more weeks he will be fully breastfed

His feeding is every 2 hours now

Chinese Name

Oma Happy has asked a person in the temple to give Tromson a nice Chinese name
The person told that his time when he was born is Dragon time which is perfect for every element which is Gold, Fire, Wood, Earth, Water
And she suggests few names

Lie Yung Sen (Forest)
Lie Yung Sen (Root)
Lie Yung Chung (Honest)
Lie Yung Hwei (Shine)
Lie Yung Liang ( light)

Mommy and Daddy chose Lie Yung Hwei meaning shine, cos he was conceived under Northern light too and hopefully he will be shine when he's growing up

Bonding With mommy or separation anxiety ??

 
Tromson is coming to 5 weeks hold and he likes to be held almost all the time, when we put him down, after few minutes he starts crying again so mommy must do the works as fast as possible when he's asleep. Therefore mommy bought this sling from pupsik studio. It's a little helpful when mommy needs to do something.
 
Well, Mommy searches on article about this and it's common for baby from newborn to 3-4 months like to be held all the time, cos they are in the separation anxiety phase where they need reassurance from caregiver NOW and don't know the meaning of LATER
 
Hopefully after 4 months old, mommy can train Tromson to self soothe himself instead of depending on mommy's all the time
 
 


Monday, 2 September 2013

Happy Full Month Tromson (3 September 2013)

Tromson is 1 month old on September 3rd, since it falls on weekday, we celebrated earlier on weekend.
We just celebrate simply with our close knit family and we ordered mix fruit cake from Fruit Paradise
Our Dresscode is souvenir from USA given by uncle Reynard







Tromson is 4 weeks old now and outing to Botanic Garden (31 Aug 2013)

Tromson is 4 weeks old, his milk intake increases and so mommy's breastmilk, eventhough it's still not enough but the formula intake has decreased to 2 - 3x feed around 120cc each feed.
So far his weight is around 5kg, let see next week during the regular check up what the weight likes
Good job Baby !

We went to Botanic Garden to celebrate his 4 weeks old and he enjoyed it too